I’ve created this page of chapter links just for you. You’ll find downloads, templates and references from my book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together without Growing Apart. Let me know what you think. Also, if you would like to share your story and/or be featured in a blog post, please contact me here. I’d love to know how my book has helped your relationship.
Chapter 3 – Communication: Kindness and Love Languages
Read the full article, “I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly And It Wasn’t Fair“.
Do Chapman’s Love Language Quiz
Chapter 4 – Communication: Love Agreements
Listen to Betsy and Warren’s Love Contract
Get started on YOUR Love Agreement. Download Love Agreement Template v.1
Chapter 5 – The Division of Labour: Fairness and Respect
Divide up the household duties in a mutually satisfying way. Download a Household Chore List
Read the article, “Couples Who Share Housework Have The Most Sex And Best Sex Lives“.
Chapter 7 – Money, It’s A Kick
Download one of “5 Household Budget Templates That Will Help If You Actually Stick With It.” Let me know if you find a better one.
Chapter 9 – Living Together Versus Marriage: How Committed Are You?
Read “Why We Really Give Engagement Rings” by Scott M Stanley, Ph.D. It is actually two articles.
Chapter 10 – Covering Your Ass(ets)
Here’s a link to a sample Cohabitation Agreement for Canadian citizens. Different provinces/states/countries have different rules and regulations. I take no responsibility for usage. Please consult your own lawyer.
Chapter 18 – Heal Your wounds. Claim Your Power. Get More Love.
Read Nick Carpenter’s article, “Rock Climbing Saved My Life: A Veteran’s Struggle with PTSD“.
Chapter 21 – Vulnerability
Watch Brené Brown’s TED talk on Vulnerability (20 minutes).